One size does NOT fit all. Despite popular opinion and what you may see on social media, there is more than one way to do things. There is usually not a right or wrong when it comes to parenting, even though you might be told that on more than one occasion. I remember having little old ladies stop me in the grocery store, and lecture me on the fact that my baby MUST be freezing because he only had one pair of socks, one jacket and his ears weren’t properly covered. (And this was when it was 80 degrees outside.) These days it’s morphed into things like breastfeeding vs. bottle-feeding, co-sleeping or not, working or staying at home, and a million other hot topics. Don’t listen to it. Make your own, informed choices and be confident in them. You know best what your baby and your family needs, when you are really honest with yourself and do the research.
I was devastated that I wasn’t able to breastfeed when I had my first baby, and that first week was perhaps the most anguished I’ve ever been, as we were both absolutely miserable, and he was starving. Finally, after trying so many things, and after getting a lecture from a professional that brought me to tears for the millionth time that day, I called my mom. She gave me the “permission” to just let go–to realize that my body wasn’t going to cooperate with what I wanted, and that it was OKAY. I was okay. The baby would be okay. I wasn’t any less of a mother because I bottle fed my baby. I have held firm to that conversation over the years, and applied it to so many different situations. I get to decide what’s right for me, and that makes it right!
In the same token, be supportive to all the moms around you, even if your choices are different. They get to decide what’s right for them too! When we stick together, we are SO much stronger. One of my least favorite things (okay, my least favorite thing) about social media is how much criticizing there is of other moms and women. If you don’t agree, that’s fine, but don’t tear someone else down.