At bedtime, once they are fed and changed and they’re not sick–it’s okay to let them cry. I’ll admit, I HATE to hear my babies cry. But I did learn that once all of their needs were taken care of, and they were comfortable, and I had sung and rocked and patted–they had the ability to put themselves to sleep. I set a time limit, and if they didn’t stop crying by then, I would go in and pat them and sing to them and get them calmed down. They did all learn to go to sleep easily, and on their own, and having good sleepers was one of the best things that could have happened to me!